So the last few weeks, I have been feeling a little lost I probably should re word that to felt lost after my break up I kinda stopped working and I just felt all kinds of crap. We've all been there, it's never nice to be treated badly by someone else and have to be left to pick up the pieces, but it's always a bit of a blessing in disguise. I neglected my blog, social media, emails (damn hackers!) and my business because you know what, I felt like I had nothing of value to share I didn't want to be seen, I felt some how like I had failed. (I have had a few nasty tweets from people for not being present on social media but the lovely comments have way out weighed this so thank you) These feelings are probably all pretty natural feelings. It has taken a lot out of me, but I am finally excited to be getting stuck into things again and making exciting plans with some wonderful people and you know what I am a completely different person for it and lets all take a moment to thank my amazing Mother.
Things aren't meant to be easy, so I've been told I guess if they were we wouldn't appreciate the good times and the nice people we surround ourselves with. Currently right now things are great which is such a contrast to how I felt a mere month ago. I'm happy and genuinely glad it happened.
I read an Article in Oh Comely Magazine Issue twenty four lost and found that summed up a lot of my thoughts, the instant I read it everything was clear and I know longer cared or was upset, strange. Also it was odd that one of my University friends had illustrated the Issue check out Harriet lee-merrion's work It was an article written by e k haralambous - finding words for happiness, here is an extract...
"The hardest thing in this world is to accept loss. It is painful to go along with something you wish wasn't happening. To be grown-up and say "I'll find another house" instead of never letting go and crying. "Ow, there is a hole in my life where my home use to be," to anybody who will listen. You bargain for all things, you would give anything for things to be different. You say. "God, I'll try harder. God, I'll be different." That's understandable, but it's disregarding the only thing that bring closure: agreeing, admitting, acceptance"
Acceptance is about understanding that a house is just bricks and mortar, the same way a heart is muscle and blood. You can't fashion a heart out of cement. You can't put the house within you, deep into your chest, hard as you try. Acceptance is having the strength to give up bargaining things, especially what you don't have, for what you've lost. While this doesn't make you happy, there is solace in the certainty of such clarity. And solace, as you know, is the close cousin of lady Joy"
Talking of Joy it's nice to find joy in my drawing again and planning lots of fun projects with wonderful people. I also stumbled across a little something on my dining table courtesy of the borther Huck's publication of How to make it on your own, a little Zine of inspiring people out there running their own company doing their own thing pretty inspiring and has given me a few light bulb moments and ways I want to branch out the studio.
So if you are feeling lost, down, broken hearted, try and make positive steps so that everyday is a little bit better then the last. And here is How to make it on your own when you feel down with some simple things to do :
- Learn to be alone
- Don't blame yourself
- Set goals
- Don't blame yourself
- Set goals
- Believe and trust your gut
- If someone say your beautiful take the Damn compliment! haha
- Don't dwell on things, probably not going to achieve anything
- Don't take crap
- Its a temporary fix
- Know your worth
- Always listen to music that makes you feel bad ass.
- Start something new, gym, a new project anything that keeps your mind focused
- If Someone asks you to go out, be it shopping, a drink, a date do it!
- Get outside
- Appreciate what you have
- Surround yourself with good people, if there aren't many about find an animal.
- Eat good food.
I thought I'd openly share how I felt just in case you are also feeling a little low too.Words can help even in the hardest of times. So go out there and make it happen because at the end of the day no one else is going to pick you up and do it for you.p.s. Thanks Dolce Gusto for the coffee.