First up I just wanted to welcome you to my new mini series called “Oh life” were I want to talk about subjects that I’ve experienced and a little more about life.
Friendship, I have written, deleted and re-written this blog post over the last few weeks, unable to really put certain things into words. I have had friends in the past drift in and out of my life over the last few years never really been effected by it, But after a recent spell of hard times you can get an idea from my post on my depression. A long term friend decided that our friendship apparently wasn’t worth it anymore, deciding to move on deleting me from facebook and twitter.
I think sometimes in life friendships like anything have their natural life span, and do inevitable disappear and flit away into nothing. I was discussing all of this with one of my favorite people Lyzi, it did really hurt me that someone who has played a major part in your life growing up, can suddenly just deem you replaceable and no longer worth your time.
I figured the best thing to do was just to let go. Its horrible breaking up with a friend and maybe pride plays a part in it, but thats all i can do is to let go. I’m not the kind of person to chase and waste my time perusing s friendship that isn’t deemed worthwhile by the other person. Sometimes in life there are things worth fighting for and sometimes it gets to a point were unfortunately no matter how great the good times were they out weigh the times when that person wasn’t there for you.
Everything that we go through is meant to be for a reason, and
yeah seriously its probably always going to slightly annoy me that
someone thinks it acceptable to be so cold and uncaring but then again
breaking up with a friend was the same why that probably all my
boyfriends have ended it with me, so whats the difference hey? So I thought to myself I wonder if i’m the only one who has experienced this.
So I decided I would put some feelers out there about how others felt
about the subject here are just a few tweets you lovelies sent.
A lot of people talked about how hard it was breaking up with friends , but also at the same time you felt that it was a good thing. Something to move on from and feel positive eventually. So there is some positives to move on from a friendship. I guess like everything in life, we grow out of our friends and we do loose touch, like I talked about earlier everything has its natural progression.
It’s sad to know that certain people will always have a slight jealousy that clouds a friendship, and that is really sad isn’t it.
So I guess this is me saying its ok to let go, you can’t possibly maintain a one sided friendship, there will be a time to move on and if its a godsend someone deleting you off facebook there is a reason. You probably like me may never know. Learn from it and know that all things happen for a reason, you may not realise why, maybe that person is just down right out of order, I personally think sometimes it best to walk away. Believe me I wanted to send a few text which i saved to drafts first and gave myself breathing time to realise that you know what I don’t want to get into the nasty side of things. It’s good to break away and realise its healthier that way.
Have you experienced something similar? Is it easy to let go?
I would just like to state that this friendship was for almost 15 years, and wasn’t based around social media.